Don't Confront With Your Pre-judgments

Confronting someone who has hurt you is good. The Bible, in fact, encourages it. But, in confronting that person, don't try first to analyze that person, draw conclusions from your analysis and then confront him with that analysis. Your analysis might be wrong and you'll merely manage to hurt that person.

For instance if someone owes you money and has failed to pay, find out first why he wasn't able to pay. Don't draw rash conclusions such as the person not having integrity, or his reasons not being true, or being too proud. Worse, don't confront the person with another person's judgment of him.

You'll only hurt that person and make matters worse.

When you need to confront someone who has hurt you or who owes you, the Bible likewise exhorts us to bring a third party. Confront with meekness, not as a conquering hero bent on humiliating the person, but with compassion. Be firm if you need to show the gravity of the offense but be ready to forgive.

Money or your hurt feelings should not take precedence over relationship. For all you know the person who has hurt you or owes you may be going through a difficult time and may be needing comfort and encouragement.

Let love be the motive and you've already solved the problem more than half way.

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